How to Be Nicer to Yourself
- Amanda Stark
- Aug 11, 2021
- 2 min read
On a scale of 1 - 10 with 10 being all of the time, how often do you think or say nice things about yourself?
On a scale of 1 - 10 how often do you think or say nice things about others?
If the number for yourself is lower, you're like many women. But it's time to start being nicer to yourself.
Being nice to yourself isn't just about self-esteem or positive self-image.
When you think negatively about yourself on a regular basis your self-confidence decreases and eventually can become non-existent.
When your self-confidence is low you likely struggle to:
Try new things
Make decisions
Handle disappointment, embarrassment or failure without shutting down
Trust yourself that you'll do what you say you will do
Achieve goals like getting promoted, finding a new job, losing weight, improving your relationships and more
Many of us think negatively about ourselves so frequently that we don't even know we're doing it. Plus, society has taught us that women who do think highly of themselves are conceited or full of themselves. So not only are we thinking negatively about ourselves inside our own heads, but we're saying those things out loud to others.
When all we hear are negatives, it gets harder and harder to see and believe the positives.
This negative self-talk then shows up as lies we tell ourselves that keep us stuck.
The Lie: I don't know how to...
Reality: You don't trust yourself to figure it out because you've been telling yourself that you're not good at certain things, you're not as smart as other people or you're too old to learn.
The Lie: I don't have time to...
Reality: You're not making yourself and the things you want a priority because you've been undermining yourself at every opportunity.
The Lie: I don't think I can...
Reality: You're letting the fear of failure keep you from trying because you've been shaming yourself for being human and having feelings.
The Lie: I can't decide...
Reality: You believe you can make the wrong decision because you haven't practiced doing what you say you will do and experiencing the results.
Having time, making decisions and doing something new only happen when you create self-confidence by being nice to yourself.
I'm hosting a free webinar next Thursday, August 19 at 7 pm Central! I'll be explaining why negative self-talk has such a major impact on your life and give you actionable strategies for creating a new inner dialogue. You'll be amazed at what's possible for you once you start being nicer to yourself!
A recording will be provided to everyone who registers.
I’m a life coach helping women get unstuck so they can live the life they want and I have one on one coaching spots available.
What is a life coach? ✨Someone who holds a judgment-free space for you to share your thoughts and feelings. ✨Someone who provides you with a neutral, objective perspective. ✨Someone who believes you can get the results you want and will support you every step of the way. ✨Someone who challenges you to level-up and be the best version yourself. ✨Someone who may say things you won't want to hear, but always says them with love. ✨An investment in yourself that you deserve.
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