How to Be Nicer to Yourself
On a scale of 1 - 10 with 10 being all of the time, how often do you think or say nice things about yourself?
On a scale of 1 - 10 how often do you think or say nice things about others?
If the number for yourself is lower, you're like many women. But it's time to start being nicer to yourself.
Being nice to yourself isn't just about self-esteem or positive self-image.
When you think negatively about yourself on a regular basis your self-confidence decreases and eventually can become non-existent.
When your self-confidence is low you likely struggle to:
Try new things
Make decisions
Handle disappointment, embarrassment or failure without shutting down
Trust yourself to do what you say you will do
Value yourself enough to take up space, set boundaries, and say no
Many of us think negatively about ourselves so frequently we don't even know we're doing it. Plus, society has taught us that women who do think highly of themselves are conceited or full of themselves. So not only are we thinking negatively about ourselves inside our own heads, but we're saying those things out loud to others.
When all we hear are negatives, it gets harder and harder to see and believe the positives.
This negative self-talk then shows up as lies we tell ourselves that keep us stuck.
The Lie: I don't know how to...
Reality: You don't trust yourself to figure it out because you've been telling yourself you're not good at certain things or you're too old to learn.
The Lie: I don't have time to...
Reality: You're not making yourself and the things you want a priority because you've been undermining yourself at every opportunity.
The Lie: I don't think I can...
Reality: You're letting the fear of failure keep you from trying because you've been shaming yourself for being human and having feelings.
The Lie: I can't decide...
Reality: You aren’t trusting your intuition so you’re looking outside of yourself for answers.
Having time, making decisions and making yourself a priority only happen when you create self-confidence by being nice to yourself.
