What I Did Last Saturday
Last Saturday I was supposed to go to a party with my husband for one of his co-workers. But by the end of the week I was drained. I had some things I wanted to do before I left to go out of town on Sunday and I wanted time to relax and read my book.
So I told him I was going to skip the party.
And he didn’t get mad. Or passive aggressively guilt trip me. Or give me the silent treatment. Or any of the other things you imagine someone will do if you tell them no because you’re prioritizing your own time and energy.
He said, “I’ll miss you and I can’t wait to spend time with you when I get home.”
I think my husband is pretty amazing, but trust me when I say he is far from perfect. Which is why I’m sharing this story with you.
Most people in your life will respond the way my husband did when you say no. The guilt you have around prioritizing your time and energy and the fear of how others will react comes from scenarios you make up in your head. Not from actual lived experience because you never give it a try.
While my husband was at the party on Saturday, I read my book and then prepped for my trip out of town. When he got home I was relaxed and energized so we could enjoy the rest of the evening together.
When you’re afraid to put yourself first because of how others may react you miss out on rejuvenating days like I had on Saturday and instead spend your time exhausted, crabby, and resentful.
What would change for you if you believed the people in your life would not only tolerate you putting yourself first, but sincerely wanted you to do it? And would support you so you could?
This type of fear is so normal. It comes up with most of my clients. If you’d like support and personalized strategies based on your Human Design for letting go of the fear and prioritizing your time and energy let’s talk about how I can help.
