It’s Not Really A No

How many times have you set a boundary only to start second-guessing yourself the moment someone pushes back?

Or maybe you get so worried about upsetting people or letting them down you don't even try to set a boundary in the first place.

Because you feel like by setting a boundary you're saying no. And years of conditioning by society have told you it's bad and selfish. So you feel guilty and think you're doing something wrong. Which has you overextending yourself for the sake of everyone else while your needs go unmet.

But a boundary is actually a loud and powerful, "Yes!"

It's saying yes to the people, activities, conversations and tasks you do want to spend your time on. Including yourself. Instead of letting the requests and demands of others drain your energy.

So next time you feel yourself about to cave on your boundary because you feel guilty for saying no, think of what you're actually saying yes to instead.

It could be saying yes to the opportunity to do something else with your time. Or saying yes to letting go of the mental load associated with a person or task.

Perhaps it's saying yes to the chance to spend the day not simmering in resentment because you're doing everything for everyone else. Again.

Saying yes to what you want is the portal to living a life that feels enchanting, fulfilling and aligned with your desires.

I help women like you set boundaries without guilt and step into a life that reflects who you truly are, not what’s expected of you. What do you want to say yes to?