When Things Are Hard
Sometimes it can seem like life, even the seemingly simple things, is harder than normal. Or harder than it "should" be.
I'm in the middle of one of these times right now. I have a very busy month. I haven't felt 100% for over a week. I didn't sleep well for a couple of night in a row. And on top of that, I'm dealing with a couple of stressful personal situations.
I could tell myself that these are just excuses and not a reason to slow down or get less done.
My guess is that many of you respond this way when things feel hard. You tell yourself that you can just keep going. That you can get through it by making yourself do more.
That is the option I chose for many, many years too. And the temptation to push through is still very strong.
But yesterday and today I chose something different.
I still showed up for my clients and a few other calls that I wanted to make. But I allowed myself to skip the rest. And let my to-do list fall by the wayside.
Not forever. Just for now.
Because I trust myself to manage my energy and to honor the commitments I make to myself and other people.
I know I don't have to be mean to myself and push through when things feel mentally and physically hard.
I trust myself to know the difference between making excuses and taking care of my mind and body.
I let myself heat up leftovers for dinner, finish a book and go to bed instead of shaming and judging myself into doing more work.
If this feels impossible for you, it's likely for two reasons:
Patriarchal conditioning (of course) that tells you that your worth is measured by how much you accomplish and do for others which often translates into how little you take care of you.
Lack of trust in yourself that you know what is best for you and that you can make that a priority while still managing to get other things done.
You aren't supposed to be a high-performing robot that never gets sick, tired, discouraged or all of the above at once.
Sometimes life feels harder than at other times and that's normal.
And when that happens it's ok to get less done and take some time to regroup. Without shame, judgment or guilt.
If this sounds impossible or like I'm coming to you from an alternate reality, we need to talk. As your coach, I can help you build self-trust, manage your energy and become a priority in your own life.
During the six months we work together, you'll also get:
Human Design insight
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During the consult we'll talk about what you're looking for and what's missing. I'll lay out a process to help you get there. And then we'll decide if we want to move forward. Either way, you'll get info about your chart and some strategies you can implement right away.