When I was in high school I was shopping with my sister and tried on a hat. When I showed it to her she told me in no uncertain terms that I didn't look good in it.
I didn't wear hats for over 20 years after that.
Because I took her thought about how I looked in that one hat one time and made it mean that I couldn't wear any kind of hat ever.
You've probably done this too. Taken something that someone said to you or something that happened once and adopted it as the absolute truth of the Universe. About something that has a bigger impact on your life than hats.
And you're likely using whatever it is to limit yourself.
By telling yourself you can't...
Do the job
Start the project
Get the promotion
Find something or someone better
Achieve the goal
Live your dream
Try again
But what if that thing that you've taken on as a fact about you isn't true at all?
Maybe it was at one time, but isn't anymore. Or maybe it never was. (My sister swears she only meant that particular hat with the haircut I had at the time. Not all hats forever the way I interpreted it.)
It's time to evaluate and challenge those ideas you're carrying about yourself.
To do this, ask:
What evidence do I have that this isn't true?
What has changed since I started believing this about me?
What else could be true instead?
Which allows you to open up to the possibility that you actually can do the things that you've been telling yourself you can't.
This is one of the things I help my clients do. We identify the untrue and limiting stories they have about themselves and do the work of dismantling them.
By doing this work with me, my clients have started businesses and side hustles, started and ended relationships, found better work/life balance, gotten jobs and promotions, gained confidence, done things they've been dreaming about for years, and so much more.
Does this sound like something you want to experience? Schedule a consult so we can talk about what working together would look like for you specifically.
During the consult we'll talk about what you're looking for and what's missing. I'll lay out a process to help you get there. And then we'll decide if we want to move forward. Either way, you'll get info about your chart and some strategies you can implement right away.