I was coaching someone earlier this week about a situation with her husband. And as she was telling me what happened and sharing why she was unsure of what to do, I noticed something.
🔎She was only focused on him.
She was going over what he might do or say based on how she responded. She was basing her decision entirely on his anticipated behavior. Which meant one major piece of the equation was missing. Her.
So I asked her one simple question.
What do you want to do?
She stopped and her mouth fell open. Her mind was blown. 🤯🤯
She realized that she had never asked herself that question before on that subject. In 20 years of marriage.
Once she took a few minutes to think about what she really wanted, her decision was easy. She knew exactly how she wanted to respond to him and move forward. All it took was looking inward and deciding what felt best to her instead of trying to predict what her husband might think or do in the future.
How often are you making decisions based on everyone but yourself?
🙋♀️If this is you, please know you aren't alone. As a woman you've been conditioned to think this way. But it's time to change this narrative.
Next time you find yourself trying to make a decision based on everyone else's thoughts and feelings, take a pause. ⏸️ Then ask yourself what you want to do.
You have permission to do exactly that.
If it's hard for you to answer the question, imagine that no one else was going to be affected by your decision. Tell yourself that you don't have to do the thing that you want, but at least let yourself answer based solely on what you want.
You can choose to do something else, but first acknowledge your own desires.
✨Your wants, choices and desires are just as important as those of your family, partner, coworkers and everyone else around you. You deserve to put yourself first and do the things you want to do.
When you work with me you get mindset coaching, witchy magic and Human Design insight to help you create a purposeful, fulfilling life based on your true desires.
During the consult we'll talk about what's missing for you, where you want to be, and the process to get you there. You'll also get a copy of your Human Design chart along with some insights from me that you can start using right away.