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Stop Dismissing Yourself

I recently participated in a Day of the Dead 5k with some friends.

When my friend invited me to join in, I said yes for two reasons. The first and most obvious was to dress up for Day of the Dead. The second was to do something fun and different with a few girlfriends that gave us an excuse for brunch and cocktails.

I was a runner for many years and have run in countless races from 5ks to Half Marathons. But an autoimmune condition and an ankle injury now make running too painful to be worth it now. My intention from the outset for this 5k was to walk.

But once I was there actually doing it, I noticed I was being mean and dismissive to myself.

When people along the course cheered and clapped I thought, "That's not for me. I'm just walking."

When I finished and was handed a (very cool medal) I thought, "Why am I getting a medal? All I did was walk."

Then I realized some of the people around me were taking selfies and celebrating as they crossed the finish line and got their medals. At the exact same time as me.

They weren't dismissing themselves and what they'd just done. So why was I?

Can you relate? The mean and dismissive thoughts about yourself can be so pervasive and habitual that you don't even notice that you're doing it. Or that there's another kinder option available.

It's time to stop letting your inner mean girl run the show.

Start by noticing when you're doing it. Set the intention to be aware of how you're talking to and about yourself throughout the day.

When you find yourself being dismissive or mean, question why.

In my case, I was carrying this idea that I should be running the race or that it only counted if I ran. Even though that had nothing to do with why I was participating. And as a result, I was ignoring the fact that I had gotten up really early on a cold Saturday, decorated my face and walked 3.1 miles before the time I would usually wake up.

Once I discovered the why, I realized I didn't agree with it. Which made it easier to shift the way I was talking to myself and celebrate what I had done.

Then make a point of saying something nice to yourself with respect, gratitude, thanks, or recognition.

That shift the conversation within you from "You're not good enough. Why can't you do better?" to "Look what you just did. Let's see what else you can do."

As your coach I can help you change the conversation with yourself so you can let go of the conditioned mentality that says beating yourself up is part of life and necessary for getting things done. So your daily life feels more like smooth sailing and less like an internal battle.

Let's create mindset shifts and magical change for you with coaching, strategies, tools and support tailored uniquely to you based on your Human Design. Schedule a consult so we can talk about working together.

During the consult we'll talk about what you're looking for and what's missing. I'll lay out a process to help you get there. And then we'll decide if we want to move forward. Either way, you'll get info about your chart and some strategies you can implement right away.


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