Last week I talked about how staying stuck is bad for your health. This could be because of what you're doing to avoid feeling stuck or your body's response to staying in a situation that isn't right for you.
But sometimes we don't even realize we're stuck. You might be thinking you're in a slump or going through a rough patch. Or maybe you're telling yourself that 2020 was hard on everyone so it's totally normal to be stressed and irritable most of the time.
If you're not sure if you're stuck or it really is just a slump you'll bounce back from soon, here's seven signs you're probably stuck.
You're first thought when you wake up in the morning is ugh, I can't today, is it Saturday yet or something similar.
When your day is done you reach for the wine bottle, box of cookies, bag of chips and/or remote control to reward yourself for making it through another day.
Your mantra becomes as soon as. For example, "As soon as I finish this project I won't be so stressed at work." Or "As soon as Steve retires morale will get better and I'll like my job again". But when the project is finished or Steve retires, nothing changes. Except that your as soon as sentence has a different ending.
Other people ask you if you're feeling okay or tell you that you look tired. You know one of those seemingly well-meaning statements that just serves to make you feel more like shit than you already do.
You say things like, I really like my job except for _____________. Which translated is basically the same as saying I really like guacamole except for the avocado. Yes, cilantro is delicious but it's not a good reason to order the guac.
When something is planned or scheduled in advance your first thought is unless I have a new job by then. But then you make it to that date and you're still in the same place.
You know exactly what you want to be doing but aren't doing anything to get there. Or you have no idea what you want to be doing, you just know it's not what you're doing right now.
If two or more of these sound all too familiar, you're probably stuck.
The first step to making a change is awareness. Whether you already knew you were stuck or these seven signs were eye-opening, the important part is what you do next. Stuck, by definition, means you're staying where you are.
Knowing you're stuck and not doing anything about it, means you will stay stuck.
When I was feeling stuck in my job and career I had no idea what I wanted to do instead, but I knew I didn't want to stay where I was. But I was stuck because of indecision and fear. I kept having the same conversations over and over again with my husband but I wouldn't decide to make a change. I was afraid of the unknown and the big shift that would inevitably take my place in my life.
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Lack of self-confidence
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