All of us are conditioned by the people, culture and messages around us. It's part of living in society with other humans.
This isn't always a bad thing. It's how we learn to say please and thank you, hold doors open for people, stand up to bullies and look out for our neighbors.
But it is a bad thing when one segment of society instills habits or norms that benefit them and limit the potential of others.
This type of conditioning is perpetuated and experienced by all different types of people. But for today, I'm focusing on the patriarchal conditioning that limits women's potential.
For example, until 1974 women weren't allowed to get credit cards on their own. And even though women have been able to manage their own money for 50 years, many women still internalize the belief that they aren't good with money.
Because societal constructs that limited women's abilities and kept them beholden to men perpetuated that belief.
This is conditioning. And it's a problem.
A 2021 Fidelity study showed that women are generally better investors than men and outperform than on average. But a 2022 poll by The Motley Fool showed that only 9% of women believe that they are better investors than men.
In other words, conditioning is more powerful than actual evidence when it comes to how women perceive themselves.
And money isn't the only place where this shows up.
When you don't apply for a job because you're not sure if you're qualified, that's conditioning.
When you stay quiet or back down so you don't seem emotional or irrational, that's conditioning.
When you second-guess yourself or look to other people to tell you what to do, that's conditioning.
When you take on more of the household and domestic tasks than your partner, that's conditioning.
I'm in the middle of a series on Instagram called Deconditioning by Design. I'm covering each of the nine centers in Human Design and how patriarchal conditioning my impact you based on whether the center is defined or open for you.
If you haven't been following along, here are the previous posts:
Make sure to follow me on Instagram and check back to see Parts 6 - 9.
Want to take this work even deeper? As your coach, I can help you identify specifically how patriarchal conditioning is showing up for you. And then help you decondition based on your unique Human Design.
During the six months we work together, you'll also get:
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During the consult we'll talk about what you're looking for and what's missing. I'll lay out a process to help you get there. And then we'll decide if we want to move forward. Either way, you'll get info about your chart and some strategies you can implement right away.